If this is your first time in
the world of cruising... Welcome!

Cruising is an age old tradition! Check out these great tips to help you have a good time without making anyone want to leave.

 

Just The Tips… for Gay Cruising: The Hilarious Handbook

A fun, smart guide to getting together—without being a pain.

 

Consent & Communication: Don't Ruin the Vibe!

• Sex is a conversation; use your body, not your mouth full. You get it.

• Consent? It's always a must. Like, you really need to keep checking in.

• "No" means no, seriously. Even if it's just a look that says it.

• Read his body. Then just respond with yours. It's kind of like charades, but way more exciting.

• When in doubt? Make eye contact, then see how he feels. If he looks confused, you're probably doing it wrong.

• Don't assume you're in charge, even if you're on top. Unless you're literally on top. Then, well, maybe.

• If it stops feeling right, just stop. You don't have to finish. It's okay.

• Joining others? Make sure they're totally on board first. No surprise guests at this party!

• Cruising is for everyone. If you're not interested, just move along!

• A smile means interest. A look away means, "Not today".

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 Situational Awareness: Don't Be That Person!

• Know the mood before you jump in. Is it a cozy get-together or a wild scene?

• Rule of 3: Look, Count, Look Again. You're not planning a heist, but close.

• Leave your important stuff at home. Unless you want to lose your wallet in the gloryhole room!

• Don't act like you own the place. You don't.

• Don't just hang around forever. Know when it's time to call it a day.

• Cruising at RSBC? Anything can happen. Like that squirrel watching you!

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 Hygiene & Preparation: Don't Smell Up the Place, Please!

• Fresh breath, clean underarms, wiped down. It's not complicated, just be a decent human.

• Drink plenty of water, don't get dehydrated. You'll taste better!

• Fast, fiber, or douche. Whatever works for you, just be ready. No unexpected surprises!

• Be mindful of cologne, drinks, and anything you take. You want to be appealing, not alarming.

• Take care of yourself. It makes a difference!

• We have the basics: Condoms (free) & lube.

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Phone Etiquette: Look Up, Not Down!

• Phones down means more action. Get off your screen and enjoy what's happening!

• Need your phone? Step away or tilt it down. Nobody wants to see your messages, really.

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Reading the Scene: The Quiet Dance!

• Cruising is often silent. Or maybe just some heavy breathing.

• Two looks? That might mean something's starting! Or he just thinks you have something on your face.

• Gay signals are important: shirts, stickers, handkerchiefs. Learn what they mean.

• Handkerchief code 101: Left = Top, Right = Bottom. Don't mess this up!

• Guys who are alone at a cruising spot? They're probably interested. Unless they're genuinely lost.

• Watching is fine. So is just showing up. Sometimes just being there is enough, you know?

 

Sexual Health: Be Smart, Not Sorry!

• Use protection—or be honest about the risks. Your health, his health, everyone's health!

• Get tested every 90 days. Take charge of your health. It's a good thing.

• Talking about STIs isn’t awkward, it’s good and responsible. "What's your status?" is a totally fine question to ask.

 

Community & Courtesy: Don't Be Rude, Please!

• Tip the staff. Be a good guest, especially if you're making a bit of a mess.

• Celebrate the "yes's." Don't focus on the "no's." They're not something to collect.

• The next guy is just a few feet away. Keep going, there are plenty of people out there!